The 10 (Commandments) Suggestions at Washington University
By: Rabbi Hershey Novack
Issue date: 7/31/04
Section: Forum
By choosing to attend Washington University, you aren't only receiving one of the finest educations in the world, you're entering one of the best communities anywhere. Shalom and welcome!
These "Ten Suggestions" are loosely modeled after the biblical Ten Commandments. They reflect my own observations, and some of what I have gleaned from students, staff and faculty.
I am the Lord your G‑d (Spirituality matters!): Increasing numbers of students entering college value spirituality. As the colligate experience extends far beyond the classroom, students confront their spirituality in a variety of ways-some in a more personal setting, others in the context of organized faith traditions. Nourish your soul. It can get hungry!
Do Not Worship Idols (no one is entirely perfect-not even those who make it passed the admissions office): The University is blessed with excellent support services, like academic assistance, career guidance, health and counseling, and many more. You know that you are growing up when you start doing those things that others used to, such as laundry, and making appointments to see the doctor . . .
Do Not Swear (at others or at yourself): Not everything will go your way every day; dealing with a situation maturely is part of being an adult. Take a longer-term view beyond the next assignment or the previous exam.
Remember the Sabbath (even G‑d takes a break): Be sure to schedule leisure time to recharge your batteries. Try IM sports, take on a community service project, explore a bit of St. Louis. And may I suggest a home cooked Friday night dinner at Chabad?
Honor your Father and your Mother (duh): They're likely paying the bills! Also, parents can be apprehensive about sending their "precious baby" away to college. The University's own Karen Levin Coburn has written a definitive work on this subject titled, appropriately, "Letting Go."
Do Not Kill (time): Use time wisely. The four years ahead provide you with many opportunities to explore things you may never have dreamed of. Take advantage of these opportunities! Take a leadership role in student groups that you are passionate about, and if there aren't any such groups, start one. Washington University places heavy emphasis on student leadership. Exercise it!
Do Not Commit Adultery (or similar moral lapses): This is always a good suggestion. And while on the subject of vice, it is worthwhile to bone up on impact of drugs and alcohol on health and social well-being. Just as there are a number of worthwhile opportunities, there are also some that aren't so worthwhile. Choose carefully.
Do Not Steal (or provide opportunities for such activity): While campus has a low crime rate, it's always smart to lock your bike, laptop, or room and not tempt people with the opportunity to do things they shouldn't. Be conscious of your surroundings.
Do Not Bear False Witness (don't cheat yourself or those around you): First roommates may not be what you bargained for, but take it in stride. It may just become a close relationship that you will treasure for years to come. And if not . . . learning to get along with the people you are forced to be with is a learning experience.
Do Not Covet (even if you get a miserable dorm room): Each student has a unique background and heritage that he or she brings to college. The University offers a significant number of programs, organizations, and student-led groups that celebrate our similarities and our different heritages and cultures. Be proud of who you are. People will respect you for it.